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To develop a strong personality, one has to be true to himself. Come what may, in any circumstance or situation.
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INFERIORITY COMPLEX is the main problem with some of the present youth. Let us discuss the ways to overcome it.
1. Strongly believe that people are not watching you. They have enough work of their own. This is the important point.
2. Love yourself. Try to spend more time with you. In fact, a person has to date with himself for some time every day. Cultivate hobbies, which keep you engaged with yourself, like reading books, watching productive TV programs, gardening, listening to music and prayer.
3. Live as you wish to live, of course, without hurting others. It is up to the people to decide whether to love you or leave you. People who do not like your life-style leave you. You need not pretend for anybody. This is called `personality,' derived from Latin word `personae,' which means mask. We all wear a mask, which is our personality. Wear the same mask, which you feel is original of you. Once you wear a different mask for people's sake, time and again you have to adjust it, to cover up your inferiority complex.
4. Don't gossip. Don't spread rumours. People with inferiority complex only have the nasty habit of gossiping and spreading the scandals.
5. Finally, don't indulge in discussions where your physical or mental incompetence is belittled or heckled. Don't crack jokes on yourself to cover up your disabilities. Avoid circles where you are the scapegoat or centre of sadistic satisfaction to others in their conversation.
To develop a strong personality, one has to be true to himself. Some people cover up their insecurity feeling and lack of confidence by terming it as sentiment and friendship. I would like to share one of my experiences with you.
When I was active in movie field, I was discussing a subject with my director and dialogue writer. Suddenly my director wanted all of us to stop discussions and proceed to attend the birthday of one of our top heroes. The dialogue writer excused himself. My director was surprised, "We will just go and greet him. He is our friend." The writer said: "If he is our friend, why has he not given any chance to you during these five years when your films turned out to be flops continuously." The director was shocked and annoyed. "We were all friends for past twenty years. I was greeting him since then. Even in his failure days, I went to his house on his birthdays. Just because he does not offer me a chance, I can not stop greeting him."
Perfect argument. Anybody should be convinced with this. But the writer has something further to say. "There is nothing wrong in going to greet a top man. But don't substitute the word `friendship' for `necessity.' We are not secure about our positions. We go to him because we depend on him. He does not come to our birthdays because he is confident that he is on the top. If you accept this I have no argument."
I still remember this argument even after 20 years. The director went to greet the hero. I don't know whether he is continuing his practice of greeting or not, but he was not given any chance. The dialogue writer continues to work with the said hero..
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