Getting over depression
Students need to learn how they can help themselves.
A boy wants to purchase and read Harry Potter’s new release on the first day, a week before his exams. His parents vehemently say ‘No’. He is depressed, performs poorly and fails in his exam. It’s a true story and here is another. A 10-year-old girl has a feeling that her younger sister is being pampered more. On her birthday, her parents present a gift that she compares with her sister’s and shows her frustration by breaking the food plate th
e next day.
Depression is of two types: Agitated and Apathetic. Some youngsters get irritated for simple reasons and thrash the younger-ones, real reason being somewhere else. This is called ‘agitated frustration’. On the other side, children with ‘apathetic’ type of behaviour become unconcerned, cold and withdraw into silence, when things do not happen according to their wish.
The distressed parents experience that it is more agonising to deal with a habitual apathetic depressed child, than with the agitated one. It becomes more difficult to deal with them at a later stage, when he/she becomes a spouse or a parent.
One should not confuse depression, panic and stress. ‘Stress’ is a hardship (can be mental or physical) felt by a person, while (or after) doing a job.
‘Panic’ is related to ‘fight or flight’ mechanism involving external pressure. ‘Depression’ does not need an outside influence to occur.
Depression is a state of intense sadness that disrupts individual’s social functioning. We all experience it at some point of time, may be with varied percentage. It is estimated that around eight per cent of people in the world suffer from chronic depression, otherwise called melancholy.
Nobody can solve your misery other than you. Analyse the cause for it and be brutal in thinking the ways to come out of your desolation. For example, your parents ask you to give up your craving habit of watching favourite hero’s movie first day first show. There are two alternatives.
Deliberately continuing the habit, not caring about them; or continue it secretly without hurting them; convincing them about the thrill in it.
Understanding the logic in their suggestion and overcoming your inclination happily and whole-heartedly.
Any one of them is better than your chronic gloominess, third-one being the best.
When you are low, you are not only the sufferer. You bother others with your indifference.
There are two P’s for your agony: People and Problems. To win over people, put forth your arguments either to convince or get convinced.
When there is no solution to a problem, don’t waste your time worrying about it.
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