Fix goals to fight constraints
Disappointments should lead to challenges rather than dead-ends. Merit and hard work may not always lead to achievement but it is only in the short-term.
We were discussing Chetan Bhagat’s concept of being happy with an everlasting spark in our eyes. There are two basics of keeping the glow alive: Regular adding of fuel and protecting the flame from the storms. Adding fuel represents the zeal to improve from our existing level. It keeps us alive.
Reading for a better rank, preparing for a quiz, interacting to develop communication, playing cricket to reach to next level of competency are some examples.
Each one of us is a different blueprint of nature, with genes of competence (or incompetence), born in a diverse environment that influences and controls us.
We can not change all of our constraints but certainly change many of them. Recognising core competency and fixing suitable goals helps us fight the constraints.
Goals do not mean just academic or career goals, but include relationships, health and mental peace.
Referring to people running after money and fame as the end goals, Bhagat says that there is no fun in driving a car with a throbbing back pain.
He sites an example of a nursery child participating in a race with a spoon in his mouth and a lemon on it. There is no point in coming first if the lemon is not there at the end. Don’t take life seriously but lead it sincerely. Our life is a pre-paid card with limited liability.
We are human beings and not programmed devices. If one is going to live by another 50 years, he has just 2,500 weekends. Disappointment, frustration and feeling of injustice extinguish the sparkling of our eyes.
When our efforts do not give the expected results, we get disappointed. Frustration is the cousin of disappointment.
From traffic jam to not getting a desired job is frustration. Unfairness is another cousin. There will be some people luckier than you.
People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree etc find it easier to make it. But consider that you are luckier than many million students, having knowledge to read this article in English.
Disappointments should lead to challenges rather than dead-ends. Merit and hard work may not always lead to achievement but it is only in the short-term. Ultimately things do work out in the long run. Yes.Develop this positive thinking to avoid the feeling of unfairness. Positive anything is better than negative everything.
YANDAMOORI VEERENDRANATH
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