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All in the NAME
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Here are some tips to help you remember names
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WHAT'S IN a name? So you say. A person's name is everything for him or her. Listening to our name being called is the sweetest sound to our ears. Our name is who we are, an extension of our ego, our identity. We can deal quite cheerfully with our name being mispronounced; but when it is forgotten outright, there is a small sense of rejection — "I was not important enough, obviously"!
Our parents spent countless number of hours wracking their brains to come up with the perfect name for us.
There is nothing more embarrassing than forgetting names while introducing people. We all have had our share of uncomfortable episodes where we desperately try to remember the name of the person who is obviously delighted to see you.
Or, how about the time when you had to introduce this person with whom you have been having cosy chats and your mind went blank at the crucial juncture!
Now this one takes the cake — realising you have been calling someone by the wrong name the whole time.
Yes, these situations have happened to all of us at some point or the other in our adult life. So, how do we deal with this temporary memory loss? There are some very simple, yet effective techniques that you can use in order to make you remember names that in turn, raise your level of social savvy. Try them and you can avoid many awkward moments.
* First, tell yourself: "I am going to remember names".
The mind has an amazing capability to cooperate with you and obey your command. It is something like the internal alarm clock — remember all those times when you had to wake up early, and before the alarm clock goes off, you wake up?
* Pay attention while being introduced, meaning "Listen".
*You have just been introduced to Suzy. Don't just say `hello' and stop. Follow that with the name, "Hello, Suzy"!
*While saying that, look very attentively at the other person's face and try to register some important facial feature and record it in your memory.
* Use the name as often as possible during conversation. You are really scoring points now; remember, we all love to hear our own names.
* Another trick is association. Does it rhyme with something? Does someone you know have a similar or same name?
*Don't hesitate to ask for the correct spelling of the name, take your time, and spell it out slowly and deliberately.
*Another trick is to visualise the spelling.
Try any one of these tips and you will amaze yourself while impressing the other person. You are making them feel special and remembered. The time lapse in between meetings really doesn't matter.
In spite of all this, if you still have selective memory loss, honesty is the best policy!
CHITRA DANGER
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