Ever after potion
Marriages in telly land are not short of drama what with opposing parents and obstinate children
LIFE IN tinsel town is quite similar to life outside. The glamorous faces that we see on screen and telly go through similar hassles that we lesser mortals go through including the universal "relationship" trouble.
Parents will be parents and worry about their children's welfare - the cynic might say it is all to do with controlling the money, but we shall be generous and say it is only the child's well-being that turns parents ballistic when faced with their young `uns choosing life partners.
While on the one hand you have television anchor Udayabhanu going public about her parents' interference in her life, on the other you have Rajiv Kanakala and Suma who surmounted a certain degree of opposition from parents to marry and live happily ever after.
Meet the parents
Rajiv, who is an actor, did not face any opposition from his artiste parents Devdas and Lakshmi. "Myparents faced a similar problem as they had a inter-caste marriage," Rajiv explains. "They were co-operation personified. The main problem came from Suma's parents, who were initially upset that their daughter was marrying a non-Malayalee. After the initial resistance however, they gave in."
For Suma, a television anchor, it was quite an experience. "I went through a tough time convincing my parents. They were a wee bit apprehensive about me marrying an Andhra boy.
There are of course differences in caste, culture, language and background. But I was firm and managed to get a positive response from my parents who decided to check with my grand mother. Surprisingly my grand mother immediately gave a nod to my marriage."
Suma says the age between 20 to 25 years is crucial for women in the entertainment industry. "This is also the time when girls would like to settle down. In most cases, however, parents oppose this and force them to continue working. This results in lot of frustration for the girl. At this point of time, they are vulnerable and trust anyone offering even a little comfort or sympathy. And end up taking a wrong decision. Parents of the girls should take their daughter's feelings into consideration," Suma comments.
Popular TV personalities Joginaidu and Jhansi also faced some problems before getting married. "We were very young when we got married," Joginaidu explains. "She was 18 and I was 22. Our parents were worried about how we would manage on our small salaries. I was an Assistant Director and Jhansi was trying to make a mark as an anchor. We, however, assured them that we would manage and reach our goals. For few months, there was mild tension. Then everything fell in place. And now our parents are perfectly happy with our career choices."
So the next time you feel your folks just do not get it or are in the danger of losing completely when they say mundane things like "you cannot live on love and fresh air," you can take heart in the fact that similar discussions, arguments, points and counter-points are being made in many a star home!
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