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CRAIG'S CALL

Ways of wooing

What happens when you like someone but don't know if he likes you?

Remember the days when women needed to be wooed and pampered in order for you to move up steadily in their book of love.

Well, not much has changed. In fact, it takes even more pampering and wooing to get into the good books of the woman today than ever before.

But the wooing game isn't quite the same anymore, because now women have joined the hunt.

Call it equality of the sexes or just the female of the species telling us in her own subtle way, "If you want something done right, do it yourself," but women are in the game, and there's pretty much nothing that can stop them.

Now they don't do things the way men do (They're finer and more tuned than we are and they show it with signs that even God would look at and go "I don't know what's happening, but I'm sure she's trying to tell me something!"). If they like someone, they'll do all the possible little rituals that would show the person that he now has to start the wooing process and basically take charge and be a man (This, of course, is only for a little while, because in reality, she's using you like a puppet and the best part is `WE LIKE IT!').

But what if the one she likes doesn't get the little signs? Then, the woman does what most women do, just PANICS.

And after the panic attack, she'll read every magazine, every column that relates to love or basically something that says, "You tried! He's an IDIOT! And you don't know what to do." And this is true.

Be honest

So here's what you do when the one you like is acting normal in spite of all the signs. If you never guessed, well, this article is a reply to the mails from damsels in distress asking me that oh-so-dreadful question, "I like this boy, but I have no clue if he's mentally disturbed because I don't know if he likes me."

Most men are usually friends for a long time and you never want to ruin that relationship which you've been sharing for long. What do you do?

If you are friends and you aren't sure if he likes you? Then for this, I'd go with HONESTY. Note: this shouldn't be done with female subtlety by changing names and telling him of the story where your fifth cousin liked this boy but was scared to tell him, and then wait to see what he would say.

Go all out and ask him but tell him first that this should in no way affect your friendship. It's the oldest trick in the books, all the men use it and it works.

And as for that cute boy round the corner or in class or at a store, there are wondrous things that a coffee, a smile and the line, "Hi, I think you're cute. Would you like a coffee?" can do. All you lovely women need is the strength to walk up and say it.

So to you all I say, "All the best."

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