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Drop the `chocolates and ice cream' bait

Feeding the right food to toddlers is no mean job

Is feeding toddlers a nightmarish experience for some parents? Many kindergarten children seem to hate normal food. Finicky kids have a strong opinion on what they should eat and are happy on a diet of chocolates and ice creams. Tearing their hair in sheer exasperation mothers give up. How should one make kids eat? Should they be forced or threatened? How should food be made attractive to lure children to try at least a morsel?

Patience and understanding is the key. A two-year-old's taste buds are more sensitive than an adult's. So give your toddler time to get familiar with new foods.

Unfounded fears

Dr. Shaila Kamath, paediatrician says, "Parents' fears that kids are not eating enough are unfounded and exaggerated for as long as kids are healthy there is nothing to worry. Force-feeding often leads to vomiting. Children may be plump or lean as per their constitution and hereditary factors and not according to diet. Ultimately within a year or two at school kids develop normal eating habits. Children should be trained to eat at the dining table from the first year onwards instead of being mouth-fed . Breakfast times are often tense, for the mother and kids, because there is the school time deadline to keep to. The situation is worse today as many schools begin so early and children don't feel hungry that early."

It has been observed that when it comes to quantity children know best. Raagini Menon, Honorary Secretary, Raksha Special School, says, "Children's lunch boxes are stuffed with such large quantities that children cannot eat and the food gets wasted. Though we often advise parents not to do so they don't seem to understand." Many teachers and staff of day-care centres and kindergartens feel the same.

A toddler may suddenly refuse to eat his favourite noodles on the pretext that the serving is not shaped to his liking. Parental cajoling, promises of rewards and the very negotiations are ways of asserting his presence. Parents' annoyance makes him feel powerful. Whatever be it, if parents maintain the necessary composure, poise and foresight without flaring up, problems are solved. `Have your vegetables and mama shall buy you chocolates,' sends the wrong signal. Instead of chocolate, take him for a joy ride

"Most kids labelled poor eaters actually get adequate nourishment," says Elizabeth Philip, psychologist. "They will eat as much as they need for normal growth. Parents should never comment on their child's eating habits before others and make it a big issue. Praise her when she is neat. Meal times should be pleasant and relaxed. Parents mouth-feed children to prevent the mess created when kids eat by themselves. But children should eat by themselves. Force-feeding may eventually lead to eating disorders."

So next time don't work yourself up to a frenzy. If your kid is healthy he is eating enough. And if he is hungry he shall eat. Force-feeding worsens matters. And guess who sometimes throws a fit and creates tantrums at mealtime? It is certainly not your child!

HEMJIT BHARATHAN

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