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Should I? Shouldn't I?

There's a limit to indecisiveness. Don't be afraid of rejection<232>

I've always wondered why nice guys always finish last? Why the women in our lives always have so much to do and never quite know when and where they're going to do it? Why there's always a huge debate on romance and how it's lacking in today's world of money and security? Why it is not enough when you find that perfect man who loves and respects you for whatever and who ever you are? And why women always want more but end up settling for just about anything?

Twenty-four years and six relationships later, I still don't have a clue. And the best thing is... neither do most of the women. Sure there are explanations but never any real answers. The best part is that every man is probably reading this and saying, "true" and every woman reading this is probably saying, "Idiot, you'll never understand"! The thing is I will never understand, and honestly neither will the rest of the world.

It's one of those things that make us imperfectly whole — Our indecisiveness. But even being indecisive has a limit, and these guys are on that border every day. What if you're sweet, charming and a drop-dead romantic, but never know how and with whom to let yourself fall in love with?

What if you have a list of expectations so high that a simple sneeze in the wrong way would put you off? Who then should you go for? Who would match the bill? And I know you would say that there is nobody who expects the world from you in a relationship! Who would expect so much?

Well believe it or not every girl friend does! All the time! And there are also men out there, who are made fun of because they want so much. But they know that if they get the world, you would be getting a universe in return. For they are the real romantics, and they don't want to end up last. So the question is who? And if you are one of them, then my friends, this one is for you...

A lot of us live and would pretty much work on a relationship the way it's supposed to be worked on... sacrifice, love, trust and understanding. I will admit that wanting perfection from the start is rather silly. But ask yourself this... don't we all want a perfect relationship? They're just waiting for it without the monotony of trial and error. So here's my answer to them. If you want this to work then you have to chase it.

Women don't want a secret admirer, that's well and good for a month or so then it becomes stalking. They want a man. Someone who has the testosterone in them to charm and fight for her. To show her that he is genuinely interested. And I know that you fellows like to wait for that perfect woman, but already have one that you're close to or vaguely know even.

You're just so scared of rejection that you'd rather sit back and admire than go and do something .

So stop being afraid and give her that universe, because to you she is the world. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day... and you want the world. So don't give up, take your time because brother your time has come.

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