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CRAIG'S CALL

The question of loyalty

When there's a void, it takes guts to hold on the way you are

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You know how I usually begin with glimpses of the past where love was true and life was apparently sweeter. This article has none of that. It is mainly for two kinds of people; and is about a little something we know as wasting life.

Now, for the first kind. You're in a relationship and things are going well. All of a sudden, you have problems. But then, which relationship doesn't? Right? You begin to notice that all your problems are different when you compare them with other relationships.

Caught cheating

Your problem isn't that your boyfriend isn't spending enough time with you, or that you have arguments about where your relationship is heading. Your problem is your partner is cheating on you and tells you about it when he gets caught. And the worst part is you stay with him even after you know what's happening! You call this loyalty. There's a void and you need help. So what do you do? You cry, then you go out and question everything that has a power over you and you then start reading everything under the sun that is based on relationships... and eat like there's no tomorrow.

All the while, what you should be doing is this:

First, have a bath and think while you do. So make sure it's a long bath. While you're thinking, first confirm if your partner has really cheated on you or if he's just telling you about how girls are attracted to him just to get more attention from you. Once you've decided which is which, you come out and get dressed, look as beautiful as you can and then make up your mind.

Remember, all men aren't jerks and there is another one out there who'll treat you better. Go straight to that partner and repeat the following, "I'm better than this and the best part is that I now realise that I've outgrown you, because you will always be a kid, and I don't need a kid."

Then walk away and, please, never look back. Because if he really did cheat on you and you've been nothing but loyal, then trust me, you are better off. Now if he's doing it for attention, then tell him to go with those other women and stay away for a week. Everything will be normal, but make him run around to win you back.

Now, this brings me to the second kind of woman, the kind who will stick, with every ounce of being, to the dumbest loser that there is. He won't care, has no plans for the future or has wasted his life, is getting old fast and has been with you for too long to let go. To you I say, first I admire your stupidity. It takes guts to hold on the way you are. To him I say, you are lucky. So pull up your socks and treat her like a goddess, because there are a million better options out there and they're all closing in. Get a life and make sure she's in it.

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