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CRAIG'S CALL

Just friends?

What happens when the person you love suggests that you remain a friend?

BUILDING BONDS But will they last?

Now, no one knows if a relationship is going to last. And no one is certain if love is really love in a relationship, or real enough to sustain both people for however long it takes. And in this generation, I'm sure everyone in a relationship realises from the beginning that even though it may seem perfect, there's always a chance that it may not work.

In all honesty, I think people now have come to terms with the fact that life is more than sitting down and crying over someone who doesn't think that you meet their requirements to be their partner for a long period of time.

And that's ok, I guess, for the simple reason that there are just too many priorities in life in this day and age.

But what do you say when that serious relationship that was your whole life or at least a large part of it ends? And all that remains is the woman you loved so dearly asking you in all seriousness if you just want to be friends? What do you say to something like that?

Also note that women are the ones who will ask you to be friends more than men. So, I'm sorry ladies, but this one is for all those guys who have heard that devastating sentence after a long relationship, "I'm sorry it's not working out. But maybe we could still be friends?"

Now, a lot of men I've spoken to about this agree with me. If you end a long running relationship, there really isn't enough space for "just friends." I know women are going on right now about how immature and stupid that notion is and can't really understand why we act that way; after all, they've moved on, so why can't we? Well ladies, I'll tell you! We don't want to just be friends for the simple fact that we have loved you for a year or more. Probably spoke about our future, on where and what we'd do with our lives and free time... and then it ends... and our hearts are exploding and our mind is trying to make sense of what just happened, of where to go from here and what to do. And then you ask us to just be friends.

That alone should be reason enough for justifying the way we act after you ask us that, but yet there are some who barely handle their emotions enough to say yes.

No man who ever truly loved you will ever be able to get over the shock when you introduce him to your new boyfriend later on. And so if you call that immaturity, then I'm sure you're right... as usual.

However, there are some men who handle these things really well and some ex-relationships that do blossom into a long lasting friendship.

But that, my friend, is like finding true love; the chances of that happening are one in a million. But I guess if life is choice, then this is life.

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