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CRAIG'S CALL

If you have doubts...

Here are some ways to know whether your partner is cheating on you

LASTING TIES? It all depends on trust.

There are two things I need to share with you, readers, before I begin this article. First, `Thank you!' to all those wonderful people who have mailed back and said they like the column. To the few who don't like it, well, let's just say you're entitled to your opinion. And I'm sure there are better things to read that will satisfy your intellect on topics other than relationships and romance. And to the ones with real problems, keep mailing and even though it might take some time, I'll answer them all, if not personally via mail, then through this column. Now, let's get this show on the road. This time, the column is in response to a bunch of mails that asked me what I think about cheating. So, here goes...

First of all, if someone is cheating on you and you let the relationship carry on even after you've caught him or her, then I'm sorry, but you need to get your head checked. Now, I know you're probably going to say it's love and you can forgive, and if the person is really worth it, that would be the right thing to do. But ask yourself this, "If they could do it once, then why not again?" Now, there are a million ways to tell if the one you love is cheating on you, and it mostly involves a lot of observation. So, if you really have a doubt, first do this — ask yourself if you really know the one you're dating, because, most of the time, it's jealousy that'll drive you to do the stupidest things. After that and only if you're positive that there could be a possibility, should you take the next step.

First of all, be an adult and discuss the problems you're having with the person and try to sort out things without resorting to violence. If that doesn't work, then, I guess, there isn't much trust anyway. So, move on to plan B, and remember that this depends on how desperate you are. You could do one of the three things — either keep tabs on your partner by asking mutual friends to keep an eye on his/her whereabouts, follow them yourself so that you'll finally rest that nagging doubt when you realise there actually isn't anything to worry about or take a break and see what eventually happens. Because then, you'll be eligible to play the same game.

In the end, whatever happens is up to you, because it was you who doubted. And remember that whatever the problem, trust the one you love or don't love in the first place.

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