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CRAIG'S CALL

What love teaches you

Three qualities — trust, loyalty and patience — will help you handle love forever

LOVE EVOLVES Maturity makes a difference

Love. Some say it's the most wonderful experience you can go through, whether it happens naturally or is shared by both parties. Others say it's the most embarrassing feeling, whether you're forced into it or if the other person is forcing you to love him/her. But like it or not, it is more or less the majority of relationships today. And whether they eventually work out or not, they still indicate everybody's willingness to experiment. But like everything fake, it fades fast. Because love is something that moulds itself, evolving into something different after a while. Because it simply is designed that way, not because that's the way it is, but because that's the way we change.

Picture this. You both like each other; `like' turns to `love' and then you can't sleep, can't eat, smile all the time and can't get the other person out of your mind. You become a zombie and your only mission in life is to make the other happy at any cost. Then, as your new relationship carries on and you grow, both in age as well as in love, you stop all those obsessively mushy romantic things that you used to do. Everything that used to turn you on so much about the other now becomes plain and regular. You start to look at a wider aspect of your relationship, like taking friends along on an outing or for a movie or not meeting as many times because you need to be either alone or concentrate on your career.

It's then, my friends, that love fades away, or maybe that's just in some cases. But in a few it evolves into something that still keeps its affection but gains three unique characters, that if learnt and practised would make that relationship INVINSIBLE. Simple qualities that we take for granted every single day, but unfortunately in love, taking them for granted would mean weakening and the inevitable demise of that affection you once shared. The three qualities are trust, loyalty and patience. For, without them, nothing would matter.

Remember that when you trust, you surrender the notion that the person who shares your love is ABSOLUTE. You prove that they not only have your heart but also share your reason. This is the hardest quality to maintain, because the moment doubt creeps in, the years of trust can vanish in an instant. This is what love will become.

Know that the loyalty you show will, in time, transform the one you love into someone who will believe anything that you propose. Simply because they know that you're not going anywhere. Being loyal shows that not only do you love that person so much that you want to be only with him/her, but that you love them so much that they become a priority. Be disloyal once and no words or actions in the world will change the anger it will cause. This is what love will teach you.

Be patient, because it truly is a virtue. Being patient in a relationship shows the one you love that you are beyond childish notions and really do have either a shoulder when they need one, a mind to provide a solution or the capacity to handle any phase that comes your way. Having patience means you take the relationship seriously and want it to last a lifetime. But be hasty and everything that you share will rush away and you will find yourself alone. This is what love evolves to.

So, remember this and know that it's not always romance and lust and the heat of passion that make a relationship last long. It's the maturity you gain that proves that you CAN really handle love forever.

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