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What love teaches you

Three qualities - trust, loyalty and patience will help you handle love forever

Love. Some say that it's the most wonderful experience that you can go through... if it happens naturally or is shared by both parties. Others say that it's the most embarrassing feeling... if you're forced into it... but like it or not the majority of relationships today... and weather they eventually work out or not, defines at the minimum, everybody's willingness to experiment.

But like everything fake and with lustre, it fades fast. Because love is something that moulds itself, evolving into something different after a while. Because it is designed that way... because that's the way we change. Picture this... you both like each other... like turns to love and then you can't sleep, can't eat, smile all the time and can't get the picture of the other person out of your mind. You become a zombie and your only mission in life is to make the other happy by any means.

Then, as your new relationship carries on and you grow, both in age as well as in love, you stop all those obsessively mushy romantic things that you used to do. Everything that used to turn you on so much about the other now becomes plain and regular. You start to look at a wider aspect of your relationship... like merging friends into a outing or a movie, or not meeting as many times because you need to either be alone for a while or build on your career.

It's then my friends that love fades away... or maybe that's just in some cases. But in a few, it evolves... changes into something that still keeps its affection but gains three unique characters, that if learned and practiced would make that relationship... INVINSIBLE.

Three musts

Simple qualities that we take for granted every single day... but unfortunately in love, taking them for granted would mean weakening and the inevitable demise of that affection you once shared.

Three qualities... trust, loyalty, patience. For without them nothing would matter.

Remember that when you trust, you surrender the notion that the person that shares your love is ABSOLUTE. You prove that they not only have your heart... they share your reason. This is the hardest quality to maintain.

Know that the loyalty you bring will, in time transform the one you love into someone that would believe anything that you propose... simply because they know that you're not going anywhere. Being loyal shows that not only do you love that person so much that you want to be only with them, but that you love them so much that they become more than someone you share a relationship with... they become a priority.

Patience pays

Be disloyal once and no words or actions in the world will change the anger it will cause. This is what love will teach you.

Be patient, because it truly is a virtue. Being patient in a relationship shows the one you love that you are beyond childish notions and really do have either a shoulder when they need one, a mind to provide a solution or the capacity to handle any phase that comes your way.

Having patience means that you take the relationship seriously and really want it to last an eternity.

But be hasty and everything that you share will rush away and you will find yourself alone with nothing but haste eating at your soul. This is what love evolves to.

So remember this and know that it's not always romance and lust and the heat of passion that makes a long lasting relationship... it's the maturity that you gain separately that proves that you CAN really handle love forever.

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