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CRAIG'S CALL

Is your man worth it?

What should you do when the man in your life suddenly decides to walk out?

ICE MAN Is your man being cold and indifferent?

I've been receiving lots of mail from women stating that they've been in a relationship and, in some cases, for a year or more. It was heaven.

And then, without any warning, the men in their lives suddenly stopped caring, and the relationship either ended or is now hanging by a fine thread.

So, first of all, this isn't advice. This is something I want you to ponder over, because you're better than whatever stupidity is occurring in your life at the moment.

This is not something you should follow, but rather something that should point you in the right direction. There are probably three general problems you're facing, from what I gather.

One: is that he's moving on (If you have already broken up, or that he's ignoring you and wants you to stay away).

Two: is that you want things the way they used to be but he's not letting that happen. And three: is that you want him back but he keeps making excuses.

Let's start with the first problem. Now, in his defence (and this is a small defence), maybe he wants a little time, because it isn't as easy for most men trying to balance a job and be ambitious at the same time.

A confused lot

We don't have that much patience. We want everything to happen yesterday, so he's probably confused and angry that things aren't working out and his life does not seem to go anywhere.

But if that's not the problem, and you should know then that he's doing what most men who don't care about you would do, and that is getting rid of you and getting someone else, as fast as he can.

What you can try is take him out for a coffee and ask him what the problem is.

Whatever the reply, try and listen in a mature manner, without getting emotional. And if the answers are merely excuses, then get up and walk away, because you deserve better.

Now, if you want things to go back to the way they were, even though that's rarely possible, because there's more to his avoiding you than meets the eye, try being extra nice and give in to certain things and maybe it will work.

If it doesn't, then I know you'll be hurt. But, remember, there are men out there who'll treat you like a goddess. Also, you still have a life. Move on.

Now, finally, number three. If this person is making excuses because he doesn't want to be with you, then take the hint and cold-shoulder him.

Because the one thing worse than a loser who doesn't know how good he has it, is a coward.

And walk away, because, even though there will be pain too great to bear, know two things — you are the stuff dreams are made of.

All you need to do is act like it. India's majority comprises men, so you'll always have better options.

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