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Lessons from love

Never mind if that someone special in your life has walked out on you. You are wiser now

MOMENTS TO CHERISH WIsh the rain would never stop

Love... one of our strongest emotions. Something that has probably been the reason we've survived all these centuries. Our dependency on someone special; our bond with someone that grows; something that strengthens trust, care and comfort to such an extent that it becomes hard to live even a day without that person by your side, without that voice to drive you forward.

But if that is the case, then what happens to our relationships? Sure we meet someone, it is a modern world after all. We fall in love and promise the world and our undying trust and devotion, until that relationship ends. And then we go through a pain and emptiness that rivals no other hurtful feeling in this world. But eventually, and for some of us, logic has its way, and we move on. And then begin the journey of having to build that bond all over again, only this time with someone else.

No stopping love

Now a lot of people tell me they want to somehow win back a love that was lost and never let that bond they shared end. And a lot of people tell me that they never want to get into a relationship again, simply because it's too tiring to start building that bond all over again. But whatever anyone says, we cannot stop love. And it won't be long until we start the entire process of flirting and cuddles all over again. Only this time, we'll be wiser.

My father once said we should never stop the chance to fall in love, only learn what we really want when love has ended. So, here's my question. It's easy to start a relationship all over again and we now know through all those previous relationships of what we now want in love, but would we ever be able to let go in complete trust like we used to before? Would we ever be able to love truly again? When would we know that we've finally got what we want in the new person and when would we be able to tell them with all our hearts that we love them without feeling we're going to make a huge mistake? When can we just stop being defensive and start being loved again?

Let your heart rule

These are things the answers to which I don't know, simply because I'm in the same boat, and hence have been single for a really long time. But in conclusion and for all those who have started a new relationship, remember, you're wiser now. But there is a time to stop your brain and let your heart do the thinking.

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