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CRAIG'S CALL

Friendship first and then...

If you're in love with someone, here's what to do to make your dream come true

HAPPY ENDING When love blossoms into a lasting relationship

Throughout history and in every romance story, there has always been one common factor that has carried on over and over again either in fantasy or in reality — a man who risks everything he has and goes against all odds for the woman he loves. Now this usually leads to the man dying and the woman crying and everyone eventually just moving on. But that's in the fantasy world. For, in the real world, if a man desires a woman more than anything else, it's a rare possibility that the two of them end up together. For, we are men, and, as men, we always have a problem; we're always over-ambitious. We always want what we can't have and the worst thing is we'll try to get it so much that sometimes it changes the very person we are. So, if you're in love with someone whom you know you can't have and don't know what to do to get that person, then fear not. Here's what you should do to make your fantasy a reality.

First, make sure the person you want is someone you can get and not someone who is completely inaccessible. For instance, if the one you want is either married, engaged, seriously committed or someone of the same sex (hey, it's possible... after all it is 2006), then, you should be the bigger man; pack up and go home. But if she is single and you know there are absolutely no attachments, emotionally or otherwise, then here are your options.

If there's someone in your area you know or someone in your class you perhaps like, but that person ignores you or talk to you but keep the conversation general, then here's what you can do.

First, find out if she just likes you as a friend or if there is room for improvement. If you really like this person, then you need to take things slowly. Start off with a coffee date that only has casual conversation, where each of you goes there separately and leaves the same way. Then slowly move the pace to a movie show but make sure it's before the sun sets; because, if you want this to work, there is nothing that should happen at night. For, once you know each other and are really comfortable, then dating is only inevitable.

And finally to those who work with the one they like in the same office and speak, flirt and try everything that would get them noticed, but sadly, it doesn't work. Well, my friends, it could be because of two things. One, there could be someone else, and two, it is the traditional feminine defence. "I don't date someone I work with." This is simply because she's confused and doesn't want to take any undue risks. This means you have to first be a friend, then a really good one and finally, maybe something more. So, to you, all I have to say is ask yourself one question — "Is she really worth it?"

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