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Annoyed about nothing?

Anger can ruin relationships. Some ways to overcome it

Anger! This is the one part of us that still shows how primal we can get. Funny, anger varies from situation to situation — from irritation to temper and finally to a mind altering rampage, in some cases. But whatever the level, we all accept the fact that everybody gets angry at some point and, as civilised beings, we always try to fight this primal urge. Though some of us overcome the irritation of day-to-day life, there is always one area where our patience is put to the test — relationships. What is it about relationships that provokes us into becoming monsters at times? Why are those disagreements so annoying that we'd rather tear our hearts out than give in and end the fight? Why is it we're such nice people to our friends and even to strangers but never the same person when it comes to relationships?

Do you wonder why I chose this topic? Recently a friend asked whether there was anything that could be done to save a relationship where all the couple did most of the time was fight? And strangely enough, when I thought about it, there was a way out. There will always be disagreements in relationships. That, my friends, is called learning about the other person. Because if we already knew everything about that person, then half of the relationships would either end in happiness or in disaster before they even started. So, to all you people who battle every step of the way, here are some things you could think about before that voice of yours turns into a siren.

It's funny how small things like changing a channel on TV, or misplacing something can turn into an argument, when otherwise they would be overlooked? So, next time, if you know you can solve something without even growling, then do it and don't assert your authority or prove how intelligent you are by pointing it out and then teaching the other person the proper way to do it. Because when you do things like that you don't come through as a smart person. So, next time, try and see the bigger picture, and you'll see that anger is just a state of mind.

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