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Hapless in love?

Sometimes, pain is the key to eternal happiness

HARD TALK Relationships require time and patience

Usually when we fall in love, there is always this hesitation about whether to let go completely; to trust blindly and know that the one you love will always be there to hold your hand. Generally, after a while, we do start trusting and get all that trust and love thrown back at our faces.

So, this article is for those people who loved and got all that love back. The only problem was it was their own love rather than that of the one they loved. This one is for those who are crying every night, thinking of moments when they sacrificed almost everything they could so that the other would be happy. And that, in turn, would make them blessed in the long run. This is for those people who don't know what to do and now feel a void where once there was a heartbeat.

This isn't a piece of advice or something you could use to better yourself. Because, all that you don't need, and even if you did, you're going to need to find it yourself. Because, that's the best way. This is just to tell you that I know the world seems like it's closing in on you, that nothing seems to go your way, and that every moment feels as if it was engineered to destroy you.

But there is hope. I know words won't heal the pain, but listen and it just might give you the will to realise that you are worth a fortune in diamonds and that no one can take that value away from you.

Relationships are risky. They require time and patience, and if you've been hurt as deeply as a stab through the heart, then you've probably been the one who gave an excess amount of both. A lot of people know there's always a chance a relationship won't work out; but most people forget this fact so easily and happily fall into the storm of passion and love. That's where lies the problem. You see, love is a wonderful thing but like everything in life, it demands support and compatibility. You can turn compatible even though that's the hardest thing to do, if you really love the person and your love is returned. But to support a relationship to make it last forever is next to impossible, and that accounts for most of the reasons a relationship won't work. Reasons like a career, bank balance, home are things that would support a relationship and make it easier to flourish. And in order to do that you have to be an adult. Because then my friends you will learn not only the reasons to continue living but the knowledge of what you want in your partner, making you the perfectly compatible mate.

So in conclusion all I have to say is ask yourself these questions, am I an adult? do I have the will so stop sniffing and dreaming of childish fantasies and the might to make them real? Because if you do then your pain will be the main key to eternal happiness.

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