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CRAIG'S CALL

Change for the better

Why do some men refuse to change themselves when it comes to their life with a woman?

IN TANDEM Treat them as equals

My e-mail is something I don't much care for. Don't get me wrong. I do use my mail and check my inbox, but I belong to a select few who would rather spend some money to hear that person's voice on a phone rather than imagine that voice as they read a long e-mail. But ever so often, I come across a mail that intrigues me so much that I devour it like a bar of chocolate. In fact, it was one of those mails that drove me to write this article. And I'll get straight to it as well.

Why do some men refuse to change themselves when it comes to their life with a woman? Why is it that there are still some men out there who believe that a man has to treat a woman as somebody below his stature, simply because he is a man? I know there are men out there, young men, who have such an ego that they treat every woman, be it a girlfriend, sister or mother, in the same manner.

So, if you are one of those who refuse to change simply because you're being led on by a fantasy, then this is for you.

Well, first of all, any man who thinks that because he's born a man must be exalted and treated like he's a rarity, needs to seek help. And any guy who thinks he is the alpha and the omega when it comes to his relationship needs to be locked up in an all-woman's prison for two to three years.

This ego rush has its variances. The above is the worse part of it, and luckily belongs to a dying race of men. There is another kind, though, and this is something unfortunately a lot of men in relationships today have.

To all of you, I have this question. Why is it that most of us men refuse to change when it comes to a relationship? Why is it that we twist those poor women to change everything, including their very being, so that we feel more comfortable with our relationships and life? Why is it that when we need to become more mature after a point in a relationship, we choose to start all over with a completely different one, without caring about the feelings or the life of the one we've thrown aside?

Now, unfortunately there is no solution to this problem. Yes, this is a problem. And that's mainly because something like this can only be changed, not solved. All I hope is whoever you are, if you're reading this, look back on the person you've been and change. Turn into someone who is equal, not someone who is superior.

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